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Are you ready to live a lit life??

I am so excited to release this workbook!! Like seriously, so excited! For the last couple of months I have been tirelessly working on getting this workbook published and ready for distribution!

Now, today is the DAY!!!

This workbook means so much to me because I know that it is a powerful tool for not only teenagers but for women.

This workbook focuses on dreams, style, emotions, goals, and identity. I have even added a monthly gratitude journal at the end. Using this workbook will increase self-awareness as well as ask the tough questions that sets us apart.

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LivingTheLitLife - Tuesday, December 11, 2018

Living The Lit Life!!!

Are you ready to live a lit life?? I am so excited to release this workbook!! Like seriously, so excited! For the last couple of mont...

It's the middle of winter and I feel like life is just truly warming up for me.

My Granny's death has me thinking a lot about my legacy and how I want to be remembered. I want to be more intentional than I have ever been in my life. I want a lead a life of love how my Granny did. I want people to know me for being kind, loving, honest, giving, and of course stylish! lol!

As we come to the end of the year, I am thinking more about life than just goals for 2019. My thoughts are on legacy...... I am just warming and I am excited for the future!!

Let's talk clothes!

I am so excited to share the details of this look!

This top is from the awesome Shein! I have noticed a shift in Shein's sizing, it is now more accurate than ever. This top is a 2X and I could have sized down to my standard 1X for sure.

Be sure to use my code, "BF181036” for 20% off our purchase with Shein!

Now, these pants are from a place I seem to score some great pieces from when I need something quick.....Rainbow! Yes, Rainbow! Now, I had to size up and get a 3X but as you can see in the photos they fit great and they were $22! Everything does not have to break the bank to look good!!!

Stay warm people and focus on legacy!!!

featured - Sunday, December 09, 2018

Warming Up.......

It's the middle of winter and I feel like life is just truly warming up for me. My Granny's death has me thinking a lot ab...

On November 15th, my life and foundation as I know it shifted more than I was mentally prepared for. My Granny passed away at the age of 81. I felt like she still had so much life to live, I thought she would live to see 100! I really did. My Granny was sick and medical professionals had given her 6 months to a year to live but I had faith in God that she would live much longer. She often expressed to my family how tired she was. She was not afraid of death and she was excited to go to Heaven.

But.....that didn't make any of this easier!!!

My Granny has been a STAPLE in my life for my entire life. I don't know life without her silently cheering me on. I didn't go away to college, I instead went to community college and lived with my Granny for a few years before I turned 21. She was one of the most constant and consistent people in my life. My heart aches at the thought of never seeing her or holding her hand again.........MY GRANNY.

My Granny was not just my Granny but she was the neighborhood Granny. She lived in the same house over 40 years! Almost all of my cousins and I, at some point in our lives, have lived in that house. It is OUR FOUNDATION. Her face, her voice, her energy, her love, her cooking, her praying......it has been the foundation of my life. Her death shook me to my core. My foundation feels shaken. Her living and breathing made me feel safe and secure. My faith is not shaken but my heart aches.

Growing up, I had both my maternal Grandmommy and my Granny on my Dad's side. I felt so loved as a child. My Grandmommy passed away from breast cancer when I was 10 years old. As a child I was devastated at the lost of my beautiful Granmommy, who called me her chocolate princess. I then was left with one Granny to cling to. As I have gotten older I recognized how special it is to be born into such loving families. I thank God I know and have experienced my Grandparents love. It is truly something special.

Random fact: I am even named after my Granny. My middle name is Christella 😉

When I had my daughter Farah, my Granny was right by my side. I was a broken woman who needed the nurturing and love of a Granny. I left the hospital and slept in the bed with my Granny for at least 2 weeks. She hugged me, prayed for me, cooked for me, and brought me back to life after losing my child. When it was time to do the March of Dimes walk to honor my angel, my Granny was right there!!! She was determined to join us! That's just who she was. A determined and loving woman.....my Granny.

I'm not sure why I wanted to write this, I am still processing what this means for my life. But, I thank God for this blog where I can just be.

MY GRANNY. I miss her so much and I pray I make her proud. I know Heaven is more than she could have imagined!!!!

Christella Wynn

January 10, 1937 - November 15, 2018

featured - Friday, December 07, 2018

My Granny

On November 15th, my life and foundation as I know it shifted more than I was mentally prepared for. My Granny passed away at the age o...

2018 is the year that has changed my LIFE. I can't believe it's almost over though.

I am determined to live this life I have been blessed with. I am determined to not let life's circumstances paralyze me but instead encourage me to live!

I am determined to finish 2018 crushing my goals and trusting GOD like never before.

Sweater & Boots....yes the boots are from Shein!

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#FunDaysWithTot - Saturday, November 24, 2018

Determined to LIVE

2018 is the year that has changed my LIFE. I can't believe it's almost over though. I am determined to live this life I have ...

I refuse to fake it! Even though I have learned to smile through my pain, I won't fake it through life. When I feel sad, I say it. When I feel mad, I say it.

I have a strong village that I lean and depend on for prayers and support. I think it's important to have a safe place to just be. This helps me get through tough times instead of acting as if they aren't happening.

I recently had a major death in my family. I will share more about it in it's on blog post. For now, I will just say I know better days are ahead.

Dress from Shein! It's super comfy.

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#FunDaysWithTot - Friday, November 23, 2018

NO FAKING IT

I refuse to fake it! Even though I have learned to smile through my pain, I won't fake it through life. When I feel sad, I say it. ...

As I get caught up on the blog. I wanted to share some encouragement for right now.

I'm learning to embrace silence in my life.

Sometimes we can let our minds run rampant with thoughts that aren't healthy for us. Then there are other times when we are trying to counter those negative thoughts with positivity and even the Word of GOD. BUT....... I am learning how to just be still. I am learning the art of silencing my brain, if even for a moment and how helpful that can be.

Sitting still and trusting GOD for just a moment daily has proven to be a powerful and peaceful tool for me.

I'm reminded of the scripture:

Be Still and KNOW that I am GOD.
Psalm 46:10

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#FunDaysWithTot - Wednesday, November 14, 2018

Peace & Silence

As I get caught up on the blog. I wanted to share some encouragement for right now. I'm learning to embrace silence in my life. ...

When I first started blogging, I just wanted to express myself and share my story. I get so many questions about blogging and what I do. Yes, it's a ton of fun, but it is WORK! So, I thought I would do a blog post discussing a bit of this beautiful and colorful blogger life!

Here are a few questions I get all of the time:

What do bloggers do?

"The primary task of a blogger is to produce content in the form of articles.

Blog content is how you provide value to your audience, educate them on what your business is about, and ultimately build trust with them before you can expect them to spend any money."

Here's a link to a great article on what bloggers do.

How I describe what I do:

I am a faith and fashion blogger and Creative Life Stylist! My blog focuses on being confident, looking good, and journey with Christ. I creatively use my life, my healing, and my story to provide hope and help to others as we overcome some of life's greatest obstacles.

I work with and collaborate with different companies and showcase looks with a hashtag called #SundaysWithTot. I love showing women that we can confidently look amazing while healing. My goal when I started TotallyTot.com was to be a resource for women and encourage myself along the way. I started this blog 3 years ago and had no clue that the possibilities were endless as a blogger and content creator.

According to a Harper's Bazaar, "We've officially entered the age where bloggers have really crossed over from simply running their own personal sites to starring in campaigns, commercials and even on magazine covers. Now all forms of social and digital media are allowing bloggers to really succeed in running their own business." Click here to check out the full article.

I am also asked the next question all of the time:

Do bloggers get paid?

YES! Some major companies work with and collaborate with bloggers. Bloggers are compensated depending on levels of influence most of the time. Here's a great article on the topic.

My personal experience: When I first started blogging I was not looking to be paid. I just wanted to live my authentic life and share my thoughts! Then...boom!! The more blogging I did, the more I started to get inquiries from different companies to collaborate. It first started with clothes in exchange for an Instagram post and/or blog post then it graduated to paid opportunities.

My most recent collaboration is with MAC Cosmetics in Water Tower in Chicago. Here's a pic with the Manager Emily!

I am learning it's truly about connecting and building relationships.

The final question I get a lot:

How do I start a blog?

I am a firm believer that just because you do something does not mean you should teach on that topic.

So, here are some links to check out regarding starting a blog.

Resources on starting a blog:

1. Best Options to Start A Blog

2. Sign up for her how to guide

3. Blogging Basics

I wanted to clear up some questions that I get all of the time. I hope this helps!

When I first started blogging I had no clue the other things I would start doing. Blogging has opened the door to other businesses for me such as:

1. Speaker

2. Workshop Facilitator

3. Style Consultant

4. Brand Ambassador

The possibilities are truly endless and I am trusting God with the future.

Links for clothes:

Fishnet Socks

Multicolor Shirt

Vintage colorful shirt

All from Shein!

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Watch from Mvmt! Use my code "totallytot15" for $15 off your purchase!

#FunDaysWithTot - Tuesday, November 13, 2018

The Colorful Blogger Life

When I first started blogging, I just wanted to express myself and share my story. I get so many questions about blogging and what ...

Don't feel like you have to change overnight! Don't be afraid to pace yourself. Remember that real change takes time.

Sometimes I feel like we are rushing greatness and that's pretty much impossible.

I have been studying the book of Ecclesiastes lately and focusing on the journey ahead. As I was writing this blog post, God reminded me of the scripture, Ecclesiastes 9:11: The race is not given to the swift nor the strong, but he who endures until the end!

So, I encourage to pace your self, enjoy the journey and go all the way!!!

Black Cape Blazer can be found here!

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#SundaysWithTot - Thursday, November 08, 2018

Real Change Takes Time

Don't feel like you have to change overnight! Don't be afraid to pace yourself. Remember that real change takes time. ...

Happy November!

I can hardly believe that we are at the end of 2018!

I wanted to write a little note to encourage you to KEEP GOING!!! Don't stop pursuing your goals, don't stop believing in your gifts, and don't stop believing in yourself!

KEEP GOING!

I am a firm believer that strategy is important and we must level up! But, while leveling up, don't give up!

Finish the year STRONG and stay committed to your process!

And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if you faint not. Galatians 6:9

This beautiful blazer is from Eleven60! I love the detail and the fit od this blazer. It can be worn with jeans, leggings, and as seen here a pencil skirt. It is so cute that I paired it with my favorite accessory, my red Moschino belt! The detail and quality of this blazer is on POINT!